It's sad, but true: Climaxing for women is anything but easy. If you're struggling, these sneaky problems could be causing issues in the bedroom. Chaining yourself to that desk chair may make your boss happy, but it's bad news for your pelvic muscles.
If you're not trying to get pregnant, then reaching climax is typically the end goal of sex for both parties. Which makes sense! But even this mindset, egalitarian as it may seem, comes with its own set of problems.
It can be life-long or have started after a period of time of being able to experience orgasm. Some women can experience orgasm during masturbation, but not during partnered sex; some women can get highly aroused, but never go beyond that. This can leave women feeling deprived of something special, isolated and abnormal and can cause tension in relationships.
Anorgasmia is the medical term for regular difficulty reaching orgasm after ample sexual stimulation. The lack of orgasms distresses you or interferes with your relationship with your partner. Orgasms vary in intensity, and women vary in the frequency of their orgasms and the amount of stimulation needed to trigger an orgasm. Most women require some degree of direct or indirect clitoral stimulation and don't climax from penetration alone.
Of course, I thought something was wrong with me because what seemed to cum so easily to everyone else see what I did there? For starters, the orgasm gap is real AF. In fact, according to a study in the Archives of Sexual Behavioronly 65 percent of heterosexual women reported that they "usually or always orgasmed when sexually intimate," compared to 95 percent of heterosexual men sigh.
Orgasmic dysfunction is when a woman either cannot reach orgasm, or has trouble reaching orgasm when she is sexually excited. When sex is not enjoyable, it can become a chore instead of a satisfying, intimate experience for both partners. Sexual desire may decline, and sex may occur less often.
The Bachelor's Raven revealed in Tuesday night's episode that she's never climaxed. It's not as unusual as it may sound. While Nick took the news maturely, he was also pretty shocked.
Women react to the resultant emotional pain by developing a poor self-concept or body image, distrust of their partner and other protective and pseudo-independent defenses that, in turn, predispose alienation in their relationships. Basically insecure anxious or avoidant attachment patterns they developed in childhood persist into adult life and strongly influence numerous aspects of sexual relating. The list is not meant to exhaust all possible psychological issues; however, in our clinical experience, we have found these to be fundamental and understanding them to be useful in helping women achieve richer, more satisfying sexual lives.